Whether you are involved in an argument with another; the one shouting at someone else or apoplectic because you can’t find a thing in your cupboard- we have solutions for these woes this month.
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Wardrobe Malfunction
“I have nothing to wear” we all wail as we stand before bulging cupboards. Before you rush out and hit the sales or buy piles of cuddly winter warmers (which you’ll probably not need) take a long hard look at your cupboard(s) The majority of us have far too many clothes rather than too few. What we are angry at is the clutter ...
Set aside some quality time to spend with your clothes, they’ll be happier and so will you. Half of the time we can’t find the clothes we want to wear; are completely unaware of what clothes lurk at the back of the cupboard.
The key is having enough closet space – annex some more if you are able. Ideally take all of your stuff out onto the floor or the bed. You will be binning a lot of things so you will end up with more room.
“Our self image and our habits tend to go together.
Change one and you will automatically change the other”
Dr. Maxwell Maltz
Use the S.P.A.C.E. concept:
Sort
  • Group similar garments together i.e. shirt,pants,jackets
  • Ascertain if everything fits perfectly, especially pant and sleeve length. If they don’t place in a pile to take to a seamstress
  • Invest in a set of matching hangers, for uniformity. Wooden (cedar) hangers are the best. Never use wire hangers, as they damage clothes. Heavier garments like jackets and coats need more substantial hangers
  • One garment per hanger only!
  • Don’t store clothes for any length of time in plastic dry cleaning bags, as they cause fabrics to change colour
Purge
  • Separate you favourite items and those you wear continually. Place them back in the cupboard
  • Be ruthlessly honest with what’s left. Clothes have to justify the space they take up!
  • Get rid of –anything that is faded, stained, pilled, shapeless or torn. Clothes worn often , no matter the cost, seldom last more than 2–5 seasons
  • Ask yourself the following questions about what garments remain behind:
        “Have I worn this in the last 2 years?”
              – If not, let your clothes give someone else joy
        “Does it flatter my shape; is the fit perfect or fixable?”
        “Is the colour right for me?”
        “Do I always feel great/alive in this?”
        “Is this the image I want to currently portray?”
Assign
  • Clothes that you wear often need to be instantly accessible, so get priority at the front and centre of the cupboard. Things you wear less often eg party shoes and bags can be stored on top shelves
  • If you have the space pack away winter clothes in summer and visa versa. Ensure they are cleaned first. Protect from insects humidity, heat etc. Use cedar blocks rather than mothballs(difficult to get rid of the smell)
Containerise
  • Give yourself more space. Install double rails for shorter garments
  • Look for storage systems that will maximise your space – plastic bins, hanging shelves. Shelf dividers are great for keeping piles of t–shirts from toppling over. Storage systems and baskets are available from all leading supermarkets
  • Store shoes either in the boxes they came in – clearly marked or with a photo of the shoe attached in front of the box for easy access. Clear plastic boxes are ideal
Equalise
  • Clothes that are worn need to be returned to their allocated space
  • Make a commitment to continue this process once a season. This will ensure that you are left with fully functional pieces that showcase you at your best and which make it a pleasure to get dressed in the morning
You never know you may enjoy your new pared down wardrobe just as it is.
If not you will have liberated sufficient space for some new goodies!
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Angry with someone lately?
Anger exists in every business, wether it is the secretary who is seething about a remark made by her boss or the manager who was passed over for a promotion. Although men express their anger more often than women, women more often tend to turn their anger inwards which could explain their higher rates of depression.
There are times when anger is necessary, even justifiable. The absence of anger can be perceived as indifference. Constantly bottling up feelings can lead to depression, ulcers and result in people using passive aggressive tactics to show their resentment. This is detrimental to any successful conflict resolution.
Tips for dealing with anger:
  • Is my anger helping me or hurting me?
  • Say to yourself: “I can work out a plan to handle this”
  • Listen to what is being said have respect for the other person’s feedback
  • Discover what yours and others “hot buttons” are – in this way you will know when not to “push” these or react on them
  • Remember to use lots of “I” words– “I feel that ...” rather than the more aggressive “you” – “You always ...”
  • Don’t shout, swear or call the other person names
  • Try postponing your anger until you can control it
  • See the person you are angry with in private
  • Ask someone you trust to tell you when they see your anger becoming out of control
  • Get rid of any perfectionist tendencies that have unreasonable expectations of others
  • Be patient and realize that others tend to be different to you
  • Identify your provocations. The better you prepare for a situation the better your response
  • Alternative explanations. Rather than assuming why someone did something, try to read between the lines
  • Identify the physical symptoms of anger eg a raised heart rate, shortness of breath, sweaty palms. The person may go white, red or even purple in the face
  • Take several deep breaths when faced with anger. This slows down your heart rate, gets rid of that “knot in your stomach” and gives you valuable time to think more clearly and calmly

From Angry to Assertive Body Language:
  • Use distraction techniques – look at what the other person is wearing, look at your watch, rearrange something on your desk. This stops the instant, instinctive backlash, gives you time to organise your thoughts before you say something that you may regret
  • Consciously relax shoulders, arms and hands –avoid white knuckled fists
  • Relax your facial muscles especially forehead, jaw and eye muscles. This will make you look more serene and has a calming effect on your “opponent”
  • If you can, and it is appropriate smile (genuinely) to soften the effect of your and their words
  • Be conscious of not mirroring (assuming the same posture) as the angry person. E.g. hands on hips, finger wagging etc. this will just ensure tensions are heightened
  • When we are angry we tend to lean into others personal space, which people find unsettling and threatening
“Not everything that is faced can be changed.
But nothing can be changed until it is faced.”
Dennis Sheffield
  • Avoid hand gestures such as finger wagging or jabbing, fist shaking or pushing. In fact avoid all physical touching. Figuratively and literally take a few steps back
  • If you are seated and feeling the brunt of someone’s anger as they loom over you – stand. This evens the playing field as you are able to “see eye to eye”
  • If you are not able to control the situation – walk away. Excuse yourself, go to the toilet, get a glass of water, or step out of the office for five minutes. Give yourself and others a chance to cool off and become more rational
Body Language is a vital component in dealing with stressful and volatile situations. Find out more by attending
Professional Impressions Attitude and Power Etiquette
presentations. This workshop will also equip you with the manners and confidence required in today’s working world.
For more information please contact us:
Tel: 011 467 5126    Cell: 082 895 7924    email: prof–imp@mweb.co.za
Professional Impressions would like to credit the following for information and images used in this article:
Woman’s ValueOctober 2004
CosmopolitanAugust 2003
EssentialsOctober 2001
Body Language The South African WayDr Brian Jude
Body LanguageCollins Gem
In Style secrets of Style
Organizing from the Inside outJulie Mogenstern
The Luck shopping ManualKim France and Andrea Linett
Unlocking the secrets of successful women in BusinessLinda Brakeall and Anna Wildermuth
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